Christmas Is for You


For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord. – Luke 2:11

For several years, I enjoyed singing in a church Christmas choir. I balanced precariously on the risers, surrounded by my fun alto friends and the rapturous Christmas music we sang. In this spot, I felt a huge, concentrated dose of God’s Christmas love.
However, one lyric bothered me: “It’s our very favorite time of year!” It sure wasn’t mine!
I loved Christmas musicals, but as a single mom I sometimes dreaded the holidays. Divorce politics and logistics intensified the usual holiday stress. The season’s emphasis on family themes highlighted my divorce situation, and I felt sad for my children. I felt alone, even as we celebrated with extended family.
Gradually, I dared to believe that God would meet our emotional needs at Christmas. The more I traced his sovereign love through the difficult events of the past, the more I trusted him to fill our empty Christmases with his love. Together, my children and I experienced his peace and joy at Christmas. I discovered a marvelous, paradoxical truth: Christmas is perfect for those who are alone, grieving, or otherwise merrily-challenged! The prophet Isaiah foretold Jesus’ ministry this way: “The… Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor; he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted… to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor… to comfort all who mourn… to give them the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit.” (Isaiah 61:1-3) Pondering his birth is never more meaningful and uplifting than when we are brokenhearted.
If you’re facing a lonely Christmas, take some time to pray through your fears and feelings. Let God help you release your expectations for the holidays and embrace your reality. Remember that you are never alone, because “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted.” (Psalm 34:18) You may also want to attend a Christmas service where you can soak up the powerful, transforming truths of the Christmas message.
Accept and embrace your lonely Christmas, and see what God does. If a Christmas angel visited you today, perhaps his message would be, “Fear not the lonely Christmas, for God has sent it and He loves you. It is your invitation to intimacy with Him.” Oh tidings of comfort and joy!

Author: Columba Smith

Single homeschooling writer mom

7 thoughts on “Christmas Is for You

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  2. What a timely post! Seriously, I haven't been feeling all that Christmas-sy lately. While I am glad that the Holidays remind us of God's love for us, I am as what you said, experiencing a “lonely Christmas.” But thank you for the reminder to pray, embrace the loneliness and just see what He'll do. Merry Christmas to you!



  3. Thank you, Anne! I am glad this spoke to you. Hugs,


  4. Lisa, I can relate to this from a child's perspective. My parents divorced when I was 6yrs old and lived in different states so Christmas was always very difficult for me. Sure it was cool to be able to celebrate twice and get twice the gifts, but it was heartbreaking not to have my parents together in the same home on Christmas Eve and Christmas morning. I wish I would have known God's love during that difficult time. The good news is that I know it now. Praying for you through the loneliness of Christmas. :)

    ~Blessings my friend,


  5. Thanks, Rosann! Children do suffer from divorce, no matter how much we are told they are resilient and can handle it. However, as you rightly point out, God's love is the remedy!
    Thanks for your prayers. I'm looking forward to a really fun Christmas this year – very grateful for that!
    I hope you have a very merry, wonderful Christmas!


  6. Hi Lisa

    Dropping by to wish you and your loved ones a Happy New Year. Keep blogging!



  7. This is such an important truth. God is with us in our lonely. Some of the times I've grown the most are when I've been loneliest.



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